In my opinion, being happy is the most important thing in life. No matter what our life looks like, we are called to be happy.
We often make our happiness dependent on external circumstances. If someone dies, we are unhappy. If someone leaves us, we are unhappy. If we lose our job, we are unhappy, etc. That is understandable. But these thought patterns are unconsciously transferred to other things as well. If we "function" like this in certain situations, we also do it in others - and often unconsciously.
Even if we have our dream partner, our dream job and all our loved ones around us, at some point we start to be "unhappy" because we don't have this or that. This is how our mental or subconscious mind works.
In principle, being happy is independent of external circumstances.
This is important for us to understand. Because this way we don't get into a negative spiral when something "bad" happens in our lives. You probably know this: Someone loses their job, then their partner, then friends, then they have a fight with their neighbours, etc. Everything comes at once somehow.
The reason is: when something "negative" happens, we unconsciously assume that more negative things will happen. This is because we usually don't really accept the first thing and don't realise that we can be happy without this thing or person or with this new situation.
How can we escape the negative spiral and recognise and nourish happiness?
By understanding the following:
Firstly, happiness comes from within and not from without. So happiness is not dependent on external circumstances. I am allowed to be happy even though (for example) my mother has just died.
Secondly, happiness is an inner attitude. Some people are always happy, some people are never happy or they are always unhappy.
Thirdly, happiness is our best friend and our greatest protection. If we are happy, we are healthy. If we are happy, we have the right job, the right partner, etc.
Fourth: It is easy to be happy. All beliefs and attitudes that suggest otherwise are not true.
