There are many reasons why life can be hard. But the most important reason is: Because I make it difficult (for myself)! Many people will not like to read these lines and contradict me, because most of us look for the cause externally.
When life is stressful, it is important to look inwards for answers so that the difficulties that come from outside can disappear.
Example: Let's say a young woman lives in a family that has problems with alcohol (alcohol is only one example, one could also mention poverty, illness, anorexia, etc.). The world she lives in looks like this: Alcohol, problems, addictions, hatred, anger. How does she get out of this situation? It is difficult because she only knows this world. She was born into this family and therefore (unconsciously) assumes that her whole life will be like this. Typically, she later finds a partner who also has similar problems, and so her life does not change.
That is the trick to get out of such problems:
God helps us when we are consistent and really want something. The first step is to see the problem with open eyes instead of blaming others. Sentences like "My father was like that, so I am like that too" or "My father drank, I hate him for that" or "My mother was an alcoholic, so I am also dealing with addictions" etc. do not help us. On the contrary, they lead to the issue becoming entrenched in us and we identify with it.
No!
More productive and problem-solving are sentences like:
- "I am healthy and happy" (even if I am not yet).
- "I am grateful for everything I have" (even if I feel I have nothing!).
- "I am responsible for my own life!"
When one works with such sentences (programmes), one quickly realises how many possibilities open up to help us solve our original problem.
When you have overcome the difficulties, you have become really strong!
Life is sometimes difficult, I admit that, but every difficulty also has a meaning.
The way out of a difficult situation is always the same: self-love, gratitude and forgiveness are the energies that help us to solve our problems. With a good portion of courage and trust, you can do it! And last but not least, it helps to stop blaming others in order to get out of the impasse.
